Do you have a Tinder account? Lucky you! It is worthwhile to have it for some observation regarding how men behave.
Tinder is a great tool for people-watching without leaving your home or your bed. Many ask the million-dollar question “Can I meet a normal guy on Tinder?”. You know, the one who could be a good material to create a relationship. I think all is possible, but first, you need to do some sorting to find such a guy.
Men play mind games on women. Especially on Tinder. Let’s play their game today, shall we?
So, what are the Tinder tricks men use?
Men, just like women, have their tricks when it comes to their self-presentation. Women usually put make-up on, dress up, look good and talk nice. How do men play?
1. LIE ABOUT THEIR AGE
How to identify: pictures of an older man. White-hair fellow on the beach or attending a vintage car show.
Bio: Age: 39. Real Age: 49 at least.
Men think that in order to get a woman, they need to lie about their age. Somehow, they think that women wouldn’t like age difference bigger than 5 years. That’s not true. I think a healthy age difference for a relationship to work shouldn’t be bigger than 10-11 years. There are some exceptions to this rule, but they are exceptions, not a standard.
2. SAY THEY DON’T HAVE CHILDREN FROM PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIPS
How to identify: photos of him posing with kids, especially small ones.
Bio: “That’s my niece”.
The goal of this trick is to make the woman think: “Aww! He’s so good with children”, or “He has experience with children, he’ll make a good father”. Hiding his children or pretending not to have them, is a weak play.
We, women, appreciate when men talk sincerely about their past, their ex relationships or their children. This shows that they acknowledge what they’ve been through, and they don’t cut themselves from their past, especially when we talk about children.
3. PLAY JAMES BOND
How to identify: posing in posh clubs with girls out of their league, posing with good-looking friends, in front of a BMW or a Maserati.
Bio: Just having fun on this ride called life!
I understand men want to show their status, but sometimes they really cross the line of good taste. Do you have a Maserati? That’s great. But you don’t need to post it on Tinder.
Men who post pics from the clubs, with many good-looking women, usually have low self-esteem. If you’re a real man, you don’t need to prove and show it on pics that women fall for you.
4. SHOW A GOOD HEART
How to identify: a man holding a sweet kitten in his arms, or a guy posting a selfie with his dog.
Men think that by posting a pic with their dog or cat (or even a borrowed one) you will say “oh so cute!” and swipe right.
While it’s ok to post one pic with the dog, it’s not okay to have a full Tinder gallery of ‘dog selfies”. Woman would spot your good heart when she meets you and not by seeing your cute pets.
5. PLAY AN ADVENTURER
How to identify: posts pictures from his trips from all over the world
Bio: a free spirit traveling the world
Adventurer wants to show how cool and free he is. By posting pics from all the luxurious resorts and white-sand beaches, he shows his ‘interesting’ lifestyle and hopes women will find him a contemporary ‘Indiana Jones’.
Travel pics are okay with one exception – too much is no good.
If you’re dating on Tinder, I have one piece of advice for you. Never consider anything real until it’s real. Is he taking you out? Do you meet regularly? Is he texting you? If the answer is “no”, then maybe you should consider investing your time somewhere else or into someone else.