What are family constellations for beginners? What exactly is this method about? That’s always a tough question to explain but let me tell you a bit about it.
It didn’t start within you.
Family constellations are about healing the relationships in your family, which in turn heal you and your perception of reality.
You haven’t been born as a white sheet of paper. You come to this world IN A GIVEN FAMILY. What happened there, in the family, influences you. You might have the same emotional issues, suffer from the same diseases, or encounter the same difficulties of finding the right partner, just as an example.
These are the so-called patterns or emotional blockages. Dynamics and unconscious scenarios according to which you respond in a given situation. Take, for example, the dynamic of giving too much. Did you give too much and the man left you? The key in family constellations is to heal it, so that we are not burdening the next generation with our problems and blockages.
Genetics and epigenetics. What does it have to do with family constellations?
As you know we inherit many characteristics after our ancestors, like the eyes or hair color and body structure. I bet you heard a couple of times that ‘you look like your mother’ or ‘you have your father’s eyes.
Epigenetics says that we inherit also the emotions and traumas, that our ancestors didn’t deal with. We have the same reactions, the same challenges. For example, constant lack of money, unhappy relationships, divorced women left alone with children. See here how parents’ emotional trauma may change their children’s biology.
Now the question comes: why should I care about my ancestors problems? Why should they be transmitted to me and why should I be the one to deal with them?
Our bond with ancestors is something unique in the scale of human relationships and interactions. Due to the fact that we are not born as a tabula rasa, we get the ‘download’ from our parents and ancestors. Family constellations for beginners teach us that our parents created us. We are part of them if we like it or not. I don’t try to say here that if our parents and grandparents had cancer, we are also gonna get it. No. This depends if we inherit their ‘way of thinking and reacting’ or we take the power to change it.
In the family history, it might have happened that our grandmother got pregnant during the war and her husband was killed or escaped. This might influence the next generations, for example, her granddaughter is a single mother. The pattern plays out again but in different circumstances. Why do we repeat the fate of our parents? Listen to my free webinar on this subject:
We are not separated beings. We are connected to each other. And family constellations profoundly prove so and give us the tool to change these dynamics and start creating your own ones.
The best way to learn it, is to experience it on your own skin.