Orders of love

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Bert Hellinger came up with the concept of “orders of love”. He suggests that love can flow more freely in a family when the orders of love are respected. These are certain laws that can be applied to a family system. Why love needs orders? Why love is not enough for relationships to succeed? I am talking here not … Read moreOrders of love

50 shades of psychology – personality analysis of Anastasia Steel

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The movie “Fifty Shades of Grey” became a blockbuster. Hardly anyone realizes that the film trilogy depicts serious personality disorders of the two main heroes – Christian Grey and Anastasia Steel.  Let me invite you to the first article of my series “50 shades of psychology”, where today I analyse the personality of Anastasia Steel. … Read more50 shades of psychology – personality analysis of Anastasia Steel

Does unconditional love create healthy relationships?

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Unconditional love is a very noble idea. It means that we respect the other person the way he or she is, with no conditions and no expectations of receiving anything in return. The question, however, is – does unconditional love create healthy relationships? “I love him so much, unconditionally” – I hear this phrase often … Read moreDoes unconditional love create healthy relationships?

Did you give too much and the man left you?

you give too much

Many women contact me and tell me “I gave him everything, I was so good to him, and then he left me. Why did this happen? What’s wrong with me?“. If you overserve and agree for crumbles of love, crumbles of attention – this is what usually happens. Shifting your own plans for the sake … Read moreDid you give too much and the man left you?

5 Tinder tricks that men use

5 tinder tricks that men use

Do you have a Tinder account? Lucky you! It is worthwhile to have it for some observation regarding how men behave. Tinder is a great tool for people-watching without leaving your home or your bed. Many ask the million-dollar question “Can I meet a normal guy on Tinder?”. You know, the one who could be … Read more5 Tinder tricks that men use

Is love enough to build a happy relationship?

Is love enough to build a happy relationship

I met Martha at a party in Kaufleuten club in Zurich on a rainy Saturday evening. We had a ‘girls talk’ over a White Russian. She was in a tough relationship which brought lots of troubles and worries. She said: “The most important is that we love each other”.  Hell yeah, I thought. As if … Read moreIs love enough to build a happy relationship?

The Art of Happiness

the art of happiness

Do you know how your thoughts drift you away from your fulfilled and happy life? Maybe you always thought that happiness is butterfly which is always slipping through your fingertips? I’m not going to give you a definition of what ‘happiness’ is. Each of us has his own definition, which is in accordance with our … Read moreThe Art of Happiness

Don’t give up so fast. Find your magic cone.

don't give up

Do you know these happy people, always smiling and satisfied with their lives? When you pass them by you think they must have won a lottery or received a pay rise. The truth is, a happy and contented person who has an enjoyable and beautiful life had to first sail through thunderstorms, get lost in … Read moreDon’t give up so fast. Find your magic cone.

The crisis of the third date. Why we fail at relationships?

crisis of third date

Why it is so difficult for us to be with someone? Why so often we fail at relationships? The contemporary times are not the times of our grandparents, when all was kept simple. Men were competing for women and the social roles were clear-cut. Nowadays the relationships can be compared to a visit at a … Read moreThe crisis of the third date. Why we fail at relationships?