Orders of love

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Bert Hellinger came up with the concept of “orders of love”. He suggests that love can flow more freely in a family when the orders of love are respected. These are certain laws that can be applied to a family system. Why love needs orders? Why love is not enough for relationships to succeed? I am talking here not … Read moreOrders of love

50 shades of psychology – personality analysis of Anastasia Steel

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The movie “Fifty Shades of Grey” became a blockbuster. Hardly anyone realizes that the film trilogy depicts serious personality disorders of the two main heroes – Christian Grey and Anastasia Steel.  Let me invite you to the first article of my series “50 shades of psychology”, where today I analyse the personality of Anastasia Steel. … Read more50 shades of psychology – personality analysis of Anastasia Steel

Does unconditional love create healthy relationships?

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Unconditional love is a very noble idea. It means that we respect the other person the way he or she is, with no conditions and no expectations of receiving anything in return. The question, however, is – does unconditional love create healthy relationships? “I love him so much, unconditionally” – I hear this phrase often … Read moreDoes unconditional love create healthy relationships?

Strong woman looking for love

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Are you a strong woman looking for love? You have a good job, a nice apartment, you’re bright and super-intelligent but there’s no man around you? If you answer yes to this question, then this article is for you. Strong woman. Who is she? Times have changed. Now women can work, earn the same or … Read moreStrong woman looking for love

I married the wrong person. What to do?

I married the wrong person

People marry for all the possible reasons. But one of the greatest is love. But what if I married the wrong person?  After a rosy dating period of two years, John married Nicole, to her great happiness. She liked everything about him. They enjoyed great sex together and endless conversations over a cup of morning … Read moreI married the wrong person. What to do?

Single mothers and excluded fathers

single mothers and excluded fathers

There is a certain dynamic played out in contemporary society and it is called single mothers and excluded fathers. I have noticed that there are mothers who voluntarily exclude fathers from their child’s life. There are many different life situations like the death of the father of the child, in vitro fertilization when the father … Read moreSingle mothers and excluded fathers

Family constellations for beginners

family constellations

What are family constellations for beginners? What exactly is this method about? That’s always a tough question to explain but let me tell you a bit about it. It didn’t start within you. Family constellations are about healing the relationships in your family, which in turn heal you and your perception of reality. You haven’t … Read moreFamily constellations for beginners

My boss doesn’t give me a raise

my boss doesn't give me a raise

My boss doesn’t give me a raise although I work hard. I bet you know this. Have you ever heard about the Tiara Syndrome? It’s a special psychological term used to describe the belief that if you do everything properly, in your job, at home, etc. someone is going to appreciate it and put a … Read moreMy boss doesn’t give me a raise

Did you give too much and the man left you?

you give too much

Many women contact me and tell me “I gave him everything, I was so good to him, and then he left me. Why did this happen? What’s wrong with me?“. If you overserve and agree for crumbles of love, crumbles of attention – this is what usually happens. Shifting your own plans for the sake … Read moreDid you give too much and the man left you?

Is love enough to build a happy relationship?

Is love enough to build a happy relationship

I met Martha at a party in Kaufleuten club in Zurich on a rainy Saturday evening. We had a ‘girls talk’ over a White Russian. She was in a tough relationship which brought lots of troubles and worries. She said: “The most important is that we love each other”.  Hell yeah, I thought. As if … Read moreIs love enough to build a happy relationship?